Dear Abby II

Dear Abby,

my child sees my parents very infrequently - they live on the other coast and rarely visit. My mother understands that Eva will perceive them as strangers and is very gentle and patient with her. My father, on other hand, thinks that he can bully Eva into letting him hold her. He grabs her, tries to tickle her or touch her feet. She screams and cries and now says "no footies" every time she sees him because she knows that he will try to grab her feet. I try to explain, but he insists that I am being overprotective. Abby, especially for a girl, I think it extremely important to not allow unwanted touching. In our house "no" means "no", and we do not force her to put up with picking up or holding, no matter who the relative. How can I make my father understand that he is only making her uneasy and afraid ? Thank you.

Baby owner